Oct 242011
 

I’m working with three resident assistants in my building at NYU to promote this program to shift the dynamic around bullying and social combat.  We’re asking students living in the hall to take the PAY ATTENTION PLEDGE.  Once students take the pledge, they can post the electronic logo on their Facebook page and a hard copy of the logo will be displayed on a bulletin board in the hall.

If you would like to participate, please make the pledge and post the logo on your Facebook page.  Then spread the word!  Here’s the pledge and the logo:

The PAY ATTENTION Pledge

We are living at a moment in time when young people are choosing to stop living because the harassment that they receive is too much to bear.  Safe spaces are shrinking because technology keeps us all connected, all the time.  Harassment and bullying, or what sociologist Robert Faris calls “social combat,” oppresses the victim or target, but also negatively affects the perpetrator and the witness.  Sexual orientation, gender identity, race, class, size, ability, and religious beliefs should not be grounds for social combat.

Research shows that 77% of bullying incidents have no one who intervenes.  Yet the same research tells us that if you have a friend who intervenes, you are more likely to intervene yourself.

It’s time for us to PAY ATTENTION to our own actions and find ways to intervene when we witness examples of social combat.  By signing this form, I pledge to:

  • Stand up for others.  I will not allow another person to be harassed or bullied in my presence.  I will not be confrontational or use violence.  Rather, I will find a way to help the person being bullied to exit the situation.
  • Choose my words wisely.  I will not use words like “gay,” “ghetto,” “queer,” or “retarded” to indicate my negative feelings about another person, object, or situation.
  • Monitor my own online behavior.  I will be careful about my word choices when writing on my own social media site or on the sites and walls of others.  I recognize that even when I’m joking with my friends, others could misinterpret what I’ve written.
  • Inquire.  When I hear someone else using questionable language to describe a person, object, or situation, I will ask this person why s/he is using that particular language.  I will ask in an appropriate, non-aggressive way, simply to determine why the person is making the choice.
  • Challenge myself.  I will work to step out of my own comfort zone and seek new knowledge about racism, classism, ageism, ableism, sexism, heterosexism, genderism, and other forms of oppression.
  • Spread the word.  I will tell my friends about the pledge and post the electronic logo on my social media pages so that others will know that I PAY ATTENTION.

Once you commit to the pledge, download this logo and make it your profile picture on your Facebook page.  That way, people will know that you PAY ATTENTION and are actively working to stop bullying and social combat.

 

Oct 122011
 

On October 12, 2010, Joel Burns, a council person in Fort Worth, Texas, spoke for 13 minutes at a public council meeting about how his experience being bullied as a 13 year old boy nearly caused him to take his own life.  Burns was catapulted into the national spotlight when his speech went viral.  I’ve followed him throughout the year via his Twitter feed @JoelBurns, and he continues to provide a strong example of what it means to be an engaged and thoughtful advocate for basic human rights, as they pertain to bullying and targeting young people.

Thanks, Mr. Burns.  Your commitment means a lot to me and to countless others.  And your approach to all of this advocacy is what I most admire.  Your poise and grace have been such an example about how activism can thoughtfully and gently affect change and shift perceptions.  Thank you for your humanity.

Please take a look and listen to Joel Burns as he speaks about his experiences over the last year.  His comments begin about 3 minutes in.

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Oct 062011
 

So I had some responses to my last blog post which I appreciated.  I welcome the dialogue on my blog, even if the dialogue disagrees with what I have to say.

I googled the demands coming from Occupy Wall Street, as I wanted to get more information than what I had.  NYDailyNews.com published a piece by Nomi Prins, with the headline “Occupy Wall Street protest demands outline complete and complex reforms to our financial system.”  Take a read.  It’s a helpful piece,

I understand a bit more about what the protest wants to accomplish, but I can’t help but take issue with one of the main points in the article.  Prins writes the following:”Protesters want jobs and the financial security that comes with them.  As in countries like Greece, Spain, Ireland and Egypt, more than 25% of the youth in this country are unemployed – and that number is growing. Add that to the 16% to 17% of underemployed individuals, and it’s no wonder that desperation has reached this visible point.”

OK.  So what does the writer mean by “youth”?  How are we defining this today?  For me, “youth” implies under the age of 18, but my gut tells me that Prins is talking about young adults in their 20s, the new “late adolescents.”  Interesting.

As someone who teaches these late adolescents as graduate students, I have lots of questions about these unemployment numbers.  Prospective students often ask me if they’re going to have a job once they leave with their degree.  My response is that I have no way of predicting that.  The institution that I teach for has a reputable brand name in a lot of disciplines, so much so that I’m told that recruiters are beating the door down to get to our graduating students, taking over staff offices in our career center.  (So what’s all this about unemployment???)  I also tell my students that while the brand name may get them an interview, they, and they alone, will need to land the job.  I can’t make any guarantees.

After ten years of teaching of both undergraduates and masters candidates, I can say one thing.  There is a general attitude that partial credit, which I read as partial accomplishment or partial preparation, is an entitlement that belongs to all people.  Let me explain:

In a recent graduate course that I taught, I assigned a final paper worth 40% of the overall grade.  Students received a rubric of assessment, well in advance of the paper’s deadline, outlining the criteria of assessment and the point values.  The paper was worth a total of 40 points, 16 points of which were pretty cut and dry.  Take a look at these:

The paper includes appropriate citations that are formatted correctly.   (yes or no)

The paper includes a “works cited” page that is formatted correctly.   (yes or no)

The paper is within the 1500-2000 word range.  (yes or no)

The paper is submitted by the announced deadline.  (yes or no)

As I read the papers, if I checked off “yes” that the criteria was met, the student earned four points for that area.  A “no” meant zero points in that area.  As you can see, these areas are pretty straight forward.  I had provided students with guides to assist with proper citations and a “works cited” page, and since this was a graduate level course, I believed that the students should have mastered these skills through their undergraduate work.  I also believed that these 16 point out of 40, 40% of the paper grade, were “easy” points.”  Hence, I would not offer partial credit in these areas.  My beliefs were incorrect.

A large number of students lost points in these areas.  For many of them, it was the difference in a final letter grade.  I did not relish giving those grades, but I did feel it was my responsibility as a teacher of masters students, to assign them a grade that they had earned.  A student’s final point total for a course is always a starting point for me, and I reserve the right to adjust grades up or down, depending on class participation, improvement over time, or exceptional performance.  In most of these cases, I did not feel like lost points in such straight forward areas indicated exceptional performance.  As a result, most grades stayed as they had been earned.

Surprisingly, or not surprisingly, these final course grades prompted one student to tell me that they should at least get points for trying.  The citations in this particular student’s paper were incorrect and incomplete, but because the student had “tried,” they wanted partial credit.  I responded that there isn’t partial credit in a professional situation, and I have that level of expectation in my classes, particularly for graduate students.  I received no response back from the student.

Partial credit for trying?  Seriously…

Maybe part of the reason the unemployment numbers are so high among “youth” populations is that we’re giving people partial credit all over the place and doing them a disservice when it comes to performing in an employment setting.  What are we gaining by telling students–PEOPLE–that it’s ok to perform well only part of the time?  Or that it’s ok to do work that’s only partly correct?  Should we really be surprised that we’re in the mess that we’re in when this is the dominant attitude?

Students tell me that I’m a hard ass.  Students are “afraid” to take my classes.  I find it all very confusing.  I’m just trying to train students who will be successful on their chosen career path.  I don’t want them to have to spend time down on Wall Street in sleeping bags, behind police barriers, worrying about survival, and screaming themselves hoarse to get someone to pay attention.  I might not be able to stop that from happening, even if I train them well, as I have no control over the job market.  However, I’m certainly going to prepare students as best I can.  I have a responsibility to demand excellence so that students leave my classes feeling like experts in that particular area that we’ve studied over the course of our time together.

People are losing jobs even when they’re performing well.  Employers don’t wait around for partial credit assignments to be completed.  Life does not wait around for partial credit to catch up.    Now more than ever, people need to have their citations in order and the works cited page ready.

Survival of the fittest, everyone.  It’s how the world works.  That’s not changing any time soon.

Oct 062011
 

I felt much more emotional about the passing of Steve Jobs this evening than I expected to feel.  I am an avid Apple product user, and I seem to be one of the few people genuinely excited by the new iPhone 4S.  I have to wait until November 27 to qualify for the lower upgrade price, but I’m already chomping at the bit to start my relationship with Siri.  However, I’d never really contemplated Steve Jobs or his legacy.  Yes, I like his products, but his scope of influence only really hit me this evening as I watched the tribute to him on the 11 o’clock news.  I found myself tearing up a bit as the newscaster spoke about him.  I’m not sure that I ever fully realized that Jobs was the brainchild behind the products.  I knew that he started Apple in his parents’ garage, but I had never identified him as being the one to come up with all of these newer  products.  Until tonight.

As I think about the depth of this loss, I’m left wondering, like many people, what the technological future will hold for us.  I know that another Jobs will come along, but we may have to wait quite awhile for that person to show up.

On the flip side of this post, we’ve got the boiling hot mess down in FiDi with these wacko protestors.  That story followed the Jobs story on the news this evening, and as I watched the footage of these protestors storming police barricades, I felt pretty embarrassed by it all.  Once again, people make asses of themselves in an attempt to right the wrongs of corporate America.

Well, guess what.

It’s more complicated than that in a democratic society.  Corporate America can’t solely be blamed for the economic mess we’re all in.  These protestors are very quick to forget that American citizens elected officials who empower these corporate businesses to make these messes.  I know that’s an oversimplification of the mechanisms at work, but I’m tired of the liberal picket and protest mentality.  The liberals behaved the same way when the Republican National Convention set up shop in NYC a few years back.  They made jackasses of themselves then, getting arrested and hauled away, and they’re doing the same thing now. Do something useful for Pete’s sake.  Getting yourselves arrested is not useful.

As the protest got dicey, the newscaster on the scene interviewed this guy who spouted out stupidity while puffing away on a cigarette.  Preppy, late 20s, white, and possibly privileged, sucking down a cancer stick (Um hello, corporate America?  Was that product placement?)  as he was about to plunge into the mass of people pushing.  It reminded of the South Park movie.  All it needed was the Les Miserable score playing underneath of it to complete the picture.

“Do you hear the friggin’ people sing?”

Two and a half weeks of finger pointing downtown.  Someone told me today that there are all of these hand signals being used to monitor (and control) the conversation down there.  If too many people of a certain type begin to dominate the dialogue, some fancy person with a special name shifts the focus away from that dominant voice.  Or people are basically doing limp wrist sparkle fingers when they agree with something.  Is this what we’re coming too?  Sounds like a gigantic pot of kumbayah hogwash leading nowhere fast.

Why isn’t someone like Steve Jobs leading this country?  Why aren’t intelligent and innovative people like Steve Jobs valued as leaders in the 21st century?  Maybe if we voted for someone like Steve, America could find its way out of this mess.

Steve, if you have any celestial or spiritual pull now, can you send us a sign?

I miss you more now than when I started this post…

Thanks for leading the way while you could.